It’s almost that time of year. Everyone you know will soon be hitting the gym, smiling while eating broccoli, or crushing out a last cigarette. For some, the gym really will become a new part of life, and that really will be the last cigarette they smoke. But most of us have probably experienced the letdown—perhaps even self-loathing—of failing to stick to a New Year’s resolution.

I can’t promise the advice I’ve collected will help—anyone who knows me would laugh hysterically at the idea of me guiding anyone toward successful habit formation—but there are some things you can do to set yourself up for success and make sure your resolutions become more than just that.

Updated January 2026: I’ve added some new thoughts on avoiding distractions as a way to bypass some of the friction holding you back from your goals.

Forget Goals. You Want Systems

The first and most important part of changing something in your life is to forget the resolutions and forget the goals. Think instead of creating a system that allows you to do what you want to do.

This advice is something I picked up from James Clear’s book Atomic Habits ($14 on Amazon). If you find this article whets your appetite for a deeper dive into how you can create better habits, Clear’s book is a great next step. It has plenty of suggestions about how to set up systems that work for you and help build the habits you want.

Common sense can take you a long way. As WIRED editor Adrienne So says, “reduce friction wherever you can.” Make it easier to go for a run by keeping your shoes by the door. Make it easier to eat healthier by filling your fridge with healthy food. “It’s easier to work out every day if you’ve prepped everything beforehand,” So says. “Then you can run into the basement and do a 30-min Peloton strength video in 32 mins, instead of spending another 20 minutes looking for a clean sports bra.”

It also helps to be honest with yourself about yourself. For example, while some people might run downstairs and actually do a Peloton video, even that seemingly simple act presents enough friction to me that I’d never actually do it. This is why, instead of getting into Peloton, I have picked an activity with even less friction: body weight exercises. My body is always there, ready to go. I don’t have to go anywhere or find anything. I just start exercising.

Which is to say, if you have to rely on the power of your iron will, just gritting your teeth and toughing it out (which isn’t actually your will, that’s your will in conflict with itself, but never mind that), you’re unlikely to turn it into a habit. That doesn’t mean there won’t be moments when whatever you’re doing isn’t hard, but it shouldn’t be hard to start.

Progress Incrementally

WIRED director and podcast host Michael Calore suggests the app Couch to 5K to anyone who wants to build a running habit. It’s a great app; stick with the personal trainer voices to keep you motivated. But you know what it won’t have you do? Run a 5K on the first day you use it.

This goes along with the previous suggestion to ditch the goals. It takes a while to develop the strength and stamina to run 5 kilometers. If you’re going to be disappointed every time you don’t run 5K, that’s not going to make you want to keep running.

The far better, and more encouraging, plan is to run a little bit more today than you did yesterday. No matter what your system is, do a little bit more than last time, even if it’s only a tiny bit more. Read 21 pages instead of 20 pages, walk for 11 minutes instead of 10, and so on. Incremental progress is the goal.

Incremental progress is part of the reason I don’t take days off from new habits, and I recommend you don’t either, at least for the first 90 days. Your body could benefit from rest days if your habit is exercise-related, but if your new habit doesn’t require physical exertion, don’t stop for the first 90 days. Depending on which study you want to cite, it takes anywhere between 60 to 243 days to build a new habit. I’ve had good luck with about 90, and I strongly recommend you go at least that long on your first try.

On the internet of yore, there was an apocryphal story about Jerry Seinfeld supposedly giving advice to software developer and would-be comedian Brad Isaac. Isaac asked him if he had any tips on becoming a comic. Seinfeld’s answer amounts to, well, build a habit of writing jokes.

That’s fairly obvious, but Seinfeld had a technique. He reportedly told Isaac to get a big wall calendar and said every time he sat down and did the work, he should make a big X over that day. “After a few days, you’ll have a chain. Just keep at it and the chain will grow longer every day. You’ll like seeing that chain, especially when you get a few weeks under your belt. Your only job next is to not break the chain.”

Even if it’s apocryphal, it’s still excellent advice. It also sounds like something a Seinfeld character would say.

Reduce Friction Even More

One of the reasons we have trouble changing our habits is that we’re highly emotionally invested in the habits we have. I like doing nothing in the morning. I don’t want to read/workout/cook/etc. Overcoming this inertia and resistance to change is difficult, especially since this resistance is often not entirely conscious.

This is partly why I have avoided suggestions about stopping habits you don’t like (grab Clear’s book if you’re interested in stopping a bad habit; he has plenty of good advice on that score) and focused on creating new habits. There’s generally less emotional baggage.

But what if you could reduce your emotional baggage? That way, you could stop focusing on specific habits and train your will instead. This is a common theme in older texts ranging from Catholic meditation guides to the New Thought Movement of the early 20th century.

The will is like a muscle, and you need to build it up through strength training. I’ve seen countless versions of this exercise, but they all go something like this: Sit down in a chair facing a wall. Pick a spot on the wall. Get up out of the chair and go touch the spot in the wall. Return to the chair and sit down again. Rinse and repeat. Most books tell you to start out doing this 10 times and work your way up from there.

There are more interesting, fun variations on this idea—I know someone who would pick a random spot on the map, figure out how to use public transportation to get there, and then go to that spot at a specific time of the day—but the general idea is to will yourself to do something, but something you have no emotional investment in. This builds up a fortitude of the will that you can then apply to things you are emotionally invested in.

Reduce Distraction

Just as there is danger that friction will stop your actions, there is a perhaps even greater danger that you will get distracted on the way to whatever it is you actually want to do. This is in fact a business model—distracting you on your way to your chosen destination is what all those “news” apps and widgets on your phone are designed to do.

I’m not even talking about the hours you might spend scrolling Instagram, but how even very simple things can get in your way. Personal example: Every morning I hold a plank for some period of time. I hate planks. They’re annoying and difficult, and the only way I can get through them is to stare at a clock and watch the seconds pass by (I know that might sound counterintuitive, but it’s what works for me). I used to use my phone’s stopwatch, but then I have to look at my phone and the potential for distraction is high. So I bought an analog watch for $25 (the same watch I had in high school as it happens) and eliminated that distraction.

That is a tiny, perhaps silly example, but distractions are part of life and dealing with them is going to make you more successful in accomplishing your goals. I don’t have a great universal solution, but one thing I have found in the last year is moving from digital to analog tools. For example, keeping track of workout in a paper notebook instead of on my phone.

Out With the Old

This is the time of year when we focus on new beginnings (natch), but it’s also worth spending some time reevaluating old commitments to see if you’re still actually committed to them. This is one of the most useful lessons I took from David Allen’s organizational classic Getting Things Done ($16, Amazon).

Allen refers to everything you have to do, or want to do, as an “open loop.” Open loops, no matter how small, take up some space in our brain. That’s space that you can’t use for other things. So any time you can close one of those loops you get a little bit of energy back. As anyone who has done the exercises in Allen’s book can tell you, there really is something very energizing about clearing your mind of all those loops (not only by doing them, but more importantly, by making a decision about what to do with them).

This applies not just to things you have to do, but also things you think you want to do. Maybe you think you should learn Spanish, but you haven’t done anything to actually learn Spanish. Admitting that you aren’t actually committed to the idea enough to do the work of learning Spanish can help close that loop. Letting go of that feeling that you should learn Spanish just might be the thing that frees up your mind enough that you decide to take up paddleboarding on a whim. The point is that the new year isn’t just a time for starting something new. It’s a time to let go of the things from that past that are no longer serving you.

In many ways this is the antidote to that ever-so-popular slogan “Just do it.” Just do it implies that you shouldn’t think about it, instead of deciding what you really want to do or should do. Maybe spend some time remembering why you wanted to do it in the first place, and if those reasons no longer resonate with you, just don’t do it.

If you like this idea, I highly recommend getting Allen’s book. It goes into much more detail on this idea and has some practical advice on letting go. You can still keep track of those things, in case you do decide, years from now, when you’re paddleboarding through the Sea of Cortez, that now you really do want to learn Spanish and are willing to do the work.

Remember to Live

I will confess, my enthusiasm for Getting Things Done has waned over the years. Not because the system doesn’t work, but because I have found my life more dramatically improved by doing less, not more. It’s not that I’ve stopped getting things done. It’s that I’ve found many of the things I felt like I should do were not really my idea; they were ideas I’d internalized from other places. I didn’t really want to do them, so I didn’t, then I felt guilty about it.

While everything I’ve written above remains good advice for starting a healthy habit and keeping it going, it’s worth spending some time and making sure you know why you want to do what you’re doing. I have been rereading Bertrand Russell’s In Praise of Idleness, and this line jumped out at me: “The modern man thinks that everything ought to be done for the sake of something else, and never for its own sake.”

In the case of habits, I think it’s worth considering whether you want to start a habit because you love whatever the habit is or because you think you should because it will make you happier or healthier or more successful. Doing things because you genuinely love them for their own sake is much more likely to lead to success.

Do the Work

As one of my writing professors used to say, to be a writer you have to park your butt in a chair and actually write. To be a yogi, you have to do yoga. To run, you have to run. There’s no easy way around it. You have to put on your grown-up pants and do the work.

However, on the flip side, as Clear points out early on in Atomic Habits, the way to change who you are is to change what you do. “Each time you write a page, you are a writer. Each time you practice the violin, you are a musician. Each time you start a workout, you are an athlete.” Each time you do the work, you become the future self you want to be.

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